We all like some things. I have my own likes and you have your own. I tend to like some specific forms or shapes or faces etc. And when I come across a specific form , I regard that as the ultimate form of that thing. Why ?
Why do I like some specific shapes and why don't I like others ? Is it about aesthetic sense inherent in our mental system ? But I don't want that answer because we all have different aesthetic senses why is that so ? Ever wondered why you like particular type? For example I like sedans in cars especially Volkswagen Vento,that shape seems perfect to me.
How come I feel so ? And I like oval faces compared to round faces, why so?
I think there is something else going on subconsciously.
Okay , I will start with the psychology which I ve read in recent past.
Important things from that learning: There are two types of brains , one is intuitive and the other is calculative. First one is swift more emotional. Second one is calm and rational.
And the second important thing is about thumb rules, one rule is survival of self. And we are wired in such a way to react to threat more than to reward. Our first brain always keeps track of our surrounding and maintains sense and alerts the organism if there is a threat. One classic example : when you are going or walking in a field and you hear a grass sound. Your first brain automatically sends a threat signal. Why don't we stop there and think rational on the possibilities of the sound being either a wind or a hiding tiger ?
Take away from this ?
Survival.
Now suppose you are a kid of tender age (8 to 10 years) when your brain constantly trying to make sense of your surroundings and protecting you. And a person X scolds you and hurts you, you cry but important thing happening (i think) is the brain collecting the data and storing it. And it stores with the associations. Your brain stores the person's face, words, personality, tone etc and associates them to threat signal in memory.
And in the opposite case, if you find a person so caring, so loving, your brain stores the data associating it with safe mode. And we love being in safe mode. These memories and like collection of patterns governs our aesthetic sense I guess.
And I say it is not aesthetic, a mere bias.
I recall that in past I used to have sister who cared very much for me and I felt safe and loved being with her. And in my memory her face is stored like this : oval shape face + brown color + talkative+ slim = safety. This might be the reason for my liking girls with such attributes. So If I take this further deep , I may find a girl heavily attractive just based on looks. And she is just the near replica of my patterns which were already there. This is pure bias, isn't it ? I think so , and it also means we can be screwed by ourselves. Muhahaha.
And I say Love at first sight doesn't exist. Hence proved. :)
No need to worry. Having knowledge is good , we can at least try to dodge those biased emotions.
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