Friday, January 18, 2013

Twisted

Some stories show villains as evils or dangerous. I believed it. But later on, it came to know that some people are with some twisted beliefs. But I have not seen any body till I join my new office. Here is an office boy, with twisted mentality or twisted beliefs.

The work he has to do is to go and buy somethings. Some times there will be a bill shown to us and most of the time no bill. Just he won't say anything. And we have to imagine that he has spend all of it to bring these things. He lies very easily. Initially, I thought he's morally damaged. Of course I know that morals we form because of our community, religion and more important is his experiences with outside world. He interpreted those incidents as general ones may be.

He once told me that he's in high debt and needs ready money, and he shared his thought of creating fake bills. I told him that's not correct. He said, " How should I make a living then?" I said " You'll get money based on how much you work." He din't argue later then.

Then I read something about stealing. Why people steal? 1.Because easy to steal. 2. There will no evidence that I've stolen. And with Consistency principle he acted more than once. He's still doing it. And I must say, our office administration is damaging him morally, in some way.

The main point is how he is getting rationalized?

" Nothing sedates rationality like large doses effortless money"- Warren E. Buffett.

I came to know about this quote from Prof. Sanjay bakshi. Reading revealed, there are many cognitive process are in the show. He knows what it takes to earn so much money. I know this : " There is no such thing as something for nothing."- Napoleon Hill.

What is about morals? My brother told me this " The level of morality depends on the shame of yours".

In the initial case, he had these thoughts in his mind. But not concrete enough. Then at the first time he'll be having so much difficult war of thoughts regarding morals in his mind. But there is a big justification because of that stealing. Justification is getting effortless money. He made those beliefs concrete.

This is what happens if there is less integrity. I don't know how to make the system to change his mind frame work. I have to think of it.

Friday, May 25, 2012

Maturity

Maturity. You don't feel this word until you face uncertainty or the situations that challenge the maturity you already have it. As long as you are in safe position or doing nothing or cowardly deluding yourself that you are in peace, you can't be mature. I felt this, as I was forced to uncertainty. I know and I read things how to act in those situations. But, I couldn't . I acted less logically with less sense, I can say. This is not aligned to my arguments.

Just read "The sense of an Ending" by Julian barnes second time. This book has created an impact. And made me think. He is right in many things.

I must face the situations or I must get practical counsel. I can get this word my experience not by just reading the principles and all other stuff. I remember someone's article regarding the importance of forgetting curve. We learn so many things or stuff but don't apply or implement. He argued that, you must implement and forget that and invent new one. This is the concept of forgetting curve.

Monday, April 23, 2012

Relationship

I felt disturbed. Something pinching me from inside. And its compulsive.

I would have felt down hearted if I had not asked that money owed to me, again. Why couldn't I do that asking before? May be I'm shy. I used to feel like its prohibited dont-cross-the-lines. May be I'm that kind of a person who doesn't know how to say no.

I think I know now. I misunderstood the very basics of relationship between a relationship and money.
A relationship is combination of understanding and a mixture of emotions. I must not value it with money. But, what do the authors mean when they say investing in a relationship. How can I invest? I must invest love. As I have learned from Ms.Preeti shenoy(author), a relationship depends or a bond depends on how much love you give in. No matter what, I must express my love, in what way comforts me as possible.

Then, Time, Energy and Money are the available tools for showing love. Money is just a tool of showing love. I must not give whole picture to this tool alone. What is important is my love-showing-tactics.

I'm feeling good that I've asked my friend more frankly. He responded generously.

I can build relationship only by talking to that person not by imagining things. When will I change?

Oh, yes I can measure the strength of a relationship. It depends mainly on how much frank or open you are to that person in your context.

Talk and solve the problem. I'll change.